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Not Your Lover

Not Your Lover

As a personal trainer I wear many hats. I'm part teacher, part best friend, part therapist. But do you know what I'm not? I'm not your lover. That means you can't cheat on me. You can't get away with sneaking around, because your faithfulness isn't to me, it's to your program, or your desire to see results. I'm not the one getting hurt, you are.

It happens a lot, I give homework that doesn't get followed, diets that get ignored, and workouts that require pity rest for your suffering.  You skip class and sessions completely with no intention on keeping up with the program, or trying to fit your own work in.

To some degree it makes total sense. The process of getting healthier and changing your habits is hard and difficult and uncomfortable, of course there will be days you don't want to do it. However, the part of this that boggles my mind, is when you turn around and apologize to me. You owe me nothing. Our arrangement is simple. You pay me and in return I provide you with the science, programing, tools, and guidance necessary to make the changes you desire. Whether or not you follow through on using those tools is not part of the agreement. 

I did my part. I'm not the person you are cheating on. You are not trying to better yourself to please me. You are not paying attention to your energy levels to impress me. You are not tracking your home workouts to make me proud. You're doing this because you woke up one day and said you wanted to do more. You wanted to be better. You are the only person who feels the effects of your cheating.

The person you need to apologize to is yourself. The trust you broke was your own. I'm not telling you this to make you feel guilty or depressed or make you think you can never change. Everybody has a bad week once in a while. We are all a work in progress and constantly evolving. We are not going to have a perfect day all the time. That does not mean we stop trying.

Just because we went over our calories at lunch doesn't make dinner a free for all. Just because we missed morning cardio twice this week doesn't mean we stop trying to get up early and do it. If anything these are the times we buckle down harder because this is where the real change is going to start to happen. There is no wagon to fall off. Your day will go on with or with out your permission. If you forgot, or didn't make time, or over slept, or don't think taking care of yourself is a priority today, tough. Own it, suck it up, and kick some ass. I'm telling you this so you realize it's about you and only you. Show up and be there for yourself, don't cheat on yourself, you deserve better then that.