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Not Your Lover

Not Your Lover

As a personal trainer I wear many hats. I'm part teacher, part best friend, part therapist. But do you know what I'm not? I'm not your lover. That means you can't cheat on me. You can't get away with sneaking around, because your faithfulness isn't to me, it's to your program, or your desire to see results. I'm not the one getting hurt, you are.

It happens a lot, I give homework that doesn't get followed, diets that get ignored, and workouts that require pity rest for your suffering.  You skip class and sessions completely with no intention on keeping up with the program, or trying to fit your own work in.

To some degree it makes total sense. The process of getting healthier and changing your habits is hard and difficult and uncomfortable, of course there will be days you don't want to do it. However, the part of this that boggles my mind, is when you turn around and apologize to me. You owe me nothing. Our arrangement is simple. You pay me and in return I provide you with the science, programing, tools, and guidance necessary to make the changes you desire. Whether or not you follow through on using those tools is not part of the agreement. 

I did my part. I'm not the person you are cheating on. You are not trying to better yourself to please me. You are not paying attention to your energy levels to impress me. You are not tracking your home workouts to make me proud. You're doing this because you woke up one day and said you wanted to do more. You wanted to be better. You are the only person who feels the effects of your cheating.

The person you need to apologize to is yourself. The trust you broke was your own. I'm not telling you this to make you feel guilty or depressed or make you think you can never change. Everybody has a bad week once in a while. We are all a work in progress and constantly evolving. We are not going to have a perfect day all the time. That does not mean we stop trying.

Just because we went over our calories at lunch doesn't make dinner a free for all. Just because we missed morning cardio twice this week doesn't mean we stop trying to get up early and do it. If anything these are the times we buckle down harder because this is where the real change is going to start to happen. There is no wagon to fall off. Your day will go on with or with out your permission. If you forgot, or didn't make time, or over slept, or don't think taking care of yourself is a priority today, tough. Own it, suck it up, and kick some ass. I'm telling you this so you realize it's about you and only you. Show up and be there for yourself, don't cheat on yourself, you deserve better then that.

How to be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

How to be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

I love my couch. It is soft, and comfy, and just the right shape for both my dogs and my cat to snuggle over me like an extra blanket. After a long day of kicking ass with positivity, collapsing into my fort made of adorableness brings me a loving sense of euphoria. Every time I'm pretty sure I will never get back up, but that only feels so comfortable because I've spent the rest of my day being uncomfortable. It's the contrast of putting my body through stress and getting it sore that made the comfort so possible.

“But I don't want to be sore, or uncomfortable. It sounds painful, and I'd rather not be in pain.” I agree. I don't want to be in pain either. In fact our e-book “The Superhero Blueprint” discusses working to not have chronic pain and inflammation. However! I also say tough. Too bad. Tough noogies. Because while chronic pain can and should be thwarted, pain as a whole is going to happen whether you like it or not, and in some cases may be necessary.

In a mirrored universe where instead of kicking ass with positivity I spend most days on that same couch covered in the happiness that is puppies and kittens, it will feel decent for the first couple hours. After that my eating will be out of boredom rather than hunger. My food will taste bland and require oodles of extra salt, deep frying, and sugar in order to garner any kind of reaction. I will become tired from all my doing nothing. My butt will fall asleep, as will my hamstrings, and my ankles, which I won't notice until I try to stand up to use the bathroom. When I do stand up, or possibly even while I'm still stuck in the couch depending on how long it's been, I will notice that my joints are stiff, stuck, and fucking SORE.

No matter what you do, at some point, soreness will set in. That uncomfortable pain you want to avoid will exist either way. You can either put it to work or let it keep you from working. You can either use it to better yourself and improve your life, or it can take over your life and keep you from living.

What? Why? How?

Science SAID so that's how. Hahahaha puns.

Your body is a crazy, amazing, efficient machine. It is way smarter than you. It has to be in order to survive all the stupid shit we put it through. Your body has mechanisms built in that solely exist to fix stuff you fuck up. For example: there is a part of your sleep cycle that's sole job is to make sense of the things you sucked at today, and make you better at them. This is why you can end yo-yo practice frustrated and confused, and comeback the next day and kick ass at it. While you were unconscious your body found the missing links of yo yo stardom and put them together. 

Because of systems like this, your body readily adapts to the stimulus you give it.
This is known as the SAID (Specific Adaption to Imposed Demands) principle. Your body will adapt to its demands whether you choose to give it any or not. The way you sit, the way you stand, the way you walk, all play a part in how you body adapts. So if you spend most of your time in a fixed position at work, either standing or sitting, and spend most of your time in your favorite recliner at home, your body will adapt to those positions. When you move it will hurt because your body will have no idea how. The muscles in your legs, core, and back, that are supported by your chair, will have been turned off.

If you give your body demands to adapt to, it will. Putting demand on your body is by nature uncomfortable. In order for it to acknowledge and change from the provided stimulus, it must be more or different from what your body is used to. Part of the being uncomfortable will come in the form of being sore. So one way or another you will be uncomfortable and sore. The question is, is your body sore from adapting to your chair or is your body sore from adapting to exciting stimulus?

The choice is yours.